The Worthy

It is easier to believe that the Master in any D/s relationship is in charge, but this is where most people have it wrong. The power of the Master is entirely dependent on the power the submissive gives Him.

i have been receiving invites telling me that they will be in control of me, and that they will put me back in my place if they need to. i am tempted to tell them, "You may think you are in control of me, but at the end of O/our session, you will see that it is me who is really in control."

This is confusing, i know. How can the slave be in control? Well, the Master tests the slave's limits, no? Therefore the limits are set by the slave, not the Master. Given a healthy and consensual environment, the slave would never be forced into something s/he did not already want, although resistance and struggle may be part of the session. It is always the Master who seeks to discover the secret pleasures of the slave, and the slave allows him to do so.

And ultimately, if the Master is not right for the slave, the slave can and will resist. It is inevitable, because why must s/he turn over her/his liberty to Someone unworthy - for mere dissatisfaction?

The ideal, of course, is that the slave knows when to give up that control over to the Master. At the end of the day, being a slave means desiring nothing but the pleasure of the Master, and that means allowing the Master to tread over his limits, to let himself be pushed so far into ecstasy, and to give up the sovereignty he no longer needs.